Since childhood, I have always considered September my month of rebirth. Usually, when I say things like this, I try to dilute its seriousness by following up with a funny sentence, but not today. I’ve always believed that our ancestors and whatever deity one believes in consciously seek us out…

A few years ago, Chima Nwoke shared a short story with me… then another … then the same one but with some changes.… Our conversations on WhatsApp were epileptic, my fault entirely, as anyone who knows me can attest to how terrible I am at texting. …

Before peace comes chaos, but after chaos comes peace. — The first time I tried therapy, I remember sliding into the building as smoothly as possible, looking embarrassingly from left to right with the hope that no one I knew from school would recognize me and learn that I was seeking help. …

Cancel new year’s resolutions. Defund them. — I’ve never been a fan of new year’s resolutions because they seem a bit pretentious. It’s like that one opportunity in the year where you must carefully list things you think your reverend, pastor, or parents would be proud of. Secondly, I also lowkey like rebelling. Instead of new year…

While the title was for bants, herein lies some gems. — For weeks 34 & 35. Learn the art of contentment, especially about being in your own presence. Remember that you’re a god. Act like one. Ultimately, starting is a personal decision. It doesn’t matter how many self-help books you read. The ancestors will continue to give you the same lesson…

It’s not always easy to continue after the first step, and no one talks about this. — Week 33. I’ve often shared about the need to start — regardless of whether or not one is afraid or does not feel 100% ready. For many people, plans often include forgetting to act, and the difference between what might work and what stands absolutely no chance is that first…

Here’s the encouragement you need to take action. — Week 32. I see life as a journey where one never stops learning. Every day presents new opportunities to learn, even where you thought you already had sound knowledge. Starting is one of those things that put us on a learning curve. Here are three takeaways from this post: You’re…

Do the little things. Pause. Pray. Cry. Fast. Eat. Lie on the floor. Watch your favorite show. Pause. Sit still. Pause. Do the little things. Do everything but those which are irreversible. That way, you have fewer things to be sorry about.

Week 27. Today’s reminder is on checking up on yourself. Let me explain. Sometimes I go weeks, months, or days without hearing from or checking up on some people. Then I randomly remember them and text them to know what’s up. How often have you thought about yourself and asked yourself how Ebele (or inserts your own name) truly is? I ask myself, ‘Ebele, are you okay?’ And I allow myself to respond to me as I listen, as I would do to my friends.